I believe in true health care.
How we live and nourish ourselves every day.
Our daily health-giving practices include generous portions of self compassion.
These practices are the foundation for true health except we’re not great at practicing them. We kick ourselves in the foot thinking health is out there. A lofty ideal that’s unattainable, perfectly in balance and one-size-fits-all.
When we as leaders and parents embrace the practices of true health care, it ripples through our families and communities.
This is the wise woman tradition.
I believe in women.
And I believe in energy. I want women to be nourished and vital and fully energized.
I want that for you.
I believe in healing and wholing instead of fixing. Because no matter what advertising tells you, you’re not broken.
I believe that experiencing low energy, pain, discomfort or health challenges doesn’t mean you’ve failed. It means your body is doing normal human things. You’re not built to be flawless.
I want to break the tension around food, food choices and right & wrong. There is nothing wrong with women. There is nothing wrong with you. You’re already perfect and greater perfection is available to you with optimal nourishment.
I want you to expand and broaden your diet rather than stay confined, restricted by food rules and a finicky digestive tract.
I believe in nourishment not cleansing. I believe in food. I believe in bodies. And the cultures and people and traditions they come from. I believe food is one of our greatest pleasures and you don’t have to shy away from pleasure to be fit, vital and well. There’s many paths to health, I’ve chosen the simplest, most flexible, women-centered path – because it works! And it’s sustainable. It doesn’t hurt you or the planet (or other people). And through the process of healing, you experience more of yourself, not less. And through the process of nourishment, you’ll experience a level of self-love, acceptance and food & body freedom unmet. This is my work in the world and our work together.
Here’s your wise woman smackdown to flourishing, vital, vibrant, powerful you.
((What gets in the way of you feeling comfortable and vital in your own skin)):
- Social conditioning. We’ve inherited the notion that the only valuable woman is a thin (white) one and our value is a function of the way we comply with media ideals and the male gaze. It’s not just in our heads, it’s reality. We see it everyday, where thin, conventionally attractive women get attention, job offers… so we develop survivalist mentalities that tell us our best defense is dieting. (I want you to know there’s another way to rise and thrive.)
- Time and energy. You get home and you’re exhausted and hungry right now, so you eat whatever’s available, quickly. Blood sugar don’t play games. But your head will and it tells you the “ideal meal” (the one you think you “should” eat) takes too much time & energy and you don’t want to do it. Naturally.
- Unconscious diet rules. Food has become a bit of a moral issue in our society. We unconsciously absorb the idea that certain foods are bad and make you bad. We’re unconsciously navigating all the invisible rules, and it’s exhausting. It produces decision fatigue – you have to make so many decisions that you can’t make any. Dietary beliefs are background scripts that are always on, consuming your resources, energy, intuition and brain cells!
- All-or-nothing. We’re either adhering to a Perfectionist Diet that’s not attainable (nor is it healthy or sustainable) or inevitably falling off. And if we can’t do it “right,” we say fuck it. The only way out is to stop following the diet. When that gets too scary, the only “safe” place is back in. It’s a vicious cycle and a trap and supremely ineffective.
- Failure trauma. Getting habituated to failing (because diets don’t work) you believe it’s your fault not the systems. UGH! Painful + paralyzing, this one feels SO liberating when you uncover the truth. When you’re confident and resilient, you won’t blame yourself.
- Exclusivity. Ignoring our cultural heritage, labeling foods “good” that are inaccessible to others (like Non-GMO or organic which we can all be for…), but valuing food that not everyone values is akin to looking at someone’s plate and saying “Eww!” It hurts! And hurting others is a barrier to personal freedom.
I call these trends “Food Righteousness.”
Food Righteousness is the narrative telling us we’re not worthy unless we’re virtuous and food is a way to be good.
Or more accurately, avoiding bad foods and being thin is how we become good women who are deserving of rights, resources, attention and love.
Food Righteousness is bad for women. It’s bad for you and it’s a cultural villain. It’s stealing your energy, your time, your ability to make decisions, your ability to feel good about yourself and most importantly, it’s stealing your power.
It does this woman by woman and girl by girl.
Culturally, it becomes a privilege-based exclusive club that not everyone can join.
Food Righteousness cuts us off from our families, our communities and our ancestors – we can no longer break bread together because we can’t eat bread. We can no longer eat the foods of our ancestors because they’ve been sold as “bad.” This isolates us. It becomes a form of unconscious, inconspicuous displays of wealth and consumerism. It’s homogenizing America and the rest of the world.
It’s toxic. It’s sexist. And it’s bad for you.
I want you to resist Food Righteousness and embrace the freedom that’s available to you.
I want you to nourish yourself and your community.
I want you to have energy and power, not restrictions.
I want you to feel at home in your own body.
Because this is your life! Live it fully, dear Wise Woman.
Combatting Food Righteousness and Embracing Wise Woman health practices – True Health Care — is our work together over the next six months.
As a health coach, I start with a holistic assessment of your life, health and nourishment practices. I learn about who you are, how you live and how you want to feel so we start building your health-giving practices.
Clients (like you!) work with me because they want to:
(I warn you, the list is long. I’ve worked with hundreds of women for over 15 years. I’ve seen it all).
- Reduce sugar, coffee, refined things (like carbs) and alcohol
- Get rid of bloating & gas (so they can have better sex)
- Feel knowledgeable & confident about food choices & lifestyle changes
- Be a better, more willing, cook who enjoys food planning
- Stop rebelling, self-sabotaging, resisting health (psst, you’re not. I’ll explain)
- Sleep through the night and manage stress well during the day
- Have enough energy to function without relying on sugar & caffeine
- Find a diet that works! Get off the diet-crazy-train
- Figure out why they don’t feel better, after doing everything “right”
- Get a handle on their substance use/abuse
- Lose weight (although they really don’t want to admit it)
- Have more rhythm, consistency, and flow; less reaction/rushing
- Be medication free
- “Balance” hormones so PMS doesn’t hijack 2 weeks of the month
- “Balance” hormones so menopause doesn’t feel like chronic PMS
- Get rid of candida, parasites, bacterial infections including SIBO + GERD
- Stop feeling sick & tired. Feel better!
- Slow down the aging process
- Have more energy & discipline to exercise
- Avoid the deteriorating, debilitating health issues their parents suffer (wake up call)
- Feel more in control of her body, health and life
- Reintroduce foods they’ve eliminated
- Develop skills and wisdom to confidently use herbs + nutrition to heal me and my family
- Be certain as nursing/pregnant mom, I’m fulfilling nutritional needs for both of us
- Becomes a health coach like you and work on myself
- Accept and love their body
- Accept and love their body
- Accept and love their body
This is wholistic work. It includes your mindset, your beliefs, your cultural conditioning AND cooking and eating and shopping and caring for your body.
(In other words, you don’t need a life coach and a health coach when you’ve got me).
Here’s how we work together:
- We meet 2x a month so you have time between meetings to shop, prep and practice
- We’re together for 6 months (12 sessions total), you learn in a trickle, no extremes
- Sessions are 75 minutes long so you have time to talk & process without getting cut off
- 15 minute phone check-ins are available between sessions. I train you to ask for help!
- Text support between sessions is ON, so you can get simple questions answered QUICKLY
- We meet via Skype so we can “see” each other (or not)
- Sessions are recorded so you can play them back and take notes and really absorb the work
- Monthly “Mocktail Hour” (aka “The Energy Hour),” brings together my tribe, so we become your tribe [8pm MT/1st Thurs. of every month]. An invigorating (zoom) chat because research shows group-work creates lasting health, greater resources, and we have more FUN.
We do this work together because it doesn’t just feed you, it feeds your daughters and your communities; so that you stop dieting and start feeling strong and nourished; so that you learn the skills of true health care. That’s what wholeness is; it’s not getting rid of the parts of yourself you don’t like. It’s incorporating ALL of you. And that, wise woman, is freedom.
If you’d like to hear what others have to say about working with me, look here.
Or join me now.