I’m obsessed with baskets. If you follow me on Instagram, you know. Here’s why, baskets are a symbol of women’s wisdom.
Women are healers.
We’ve always been the unsung mother-doctors. Grandmother healers. Wise aunties who knew things. Women’s healing powers are not epic. It’s ordinary magic.
Ordinary is invisible. You don’t get the credit. And that’s okay, except!!
The perception that “women’s work is a lesser contribution” is what fuels unequal pay in the work force. And it fuels the same perception at home. Therefore, it’s valued less. THIS messes with families! And erodes all you know that’s right about food and nourishment and how important it is.
Check this out, the healing basket.
The basket is a metaphor for your magic: your- cooking, intuition, empathy, “healing touch,” herbal remedies and wisdom. These things are invisible, but you’re not!
I see you. Children see you. The work you do that keeps you and your family alive & well is freaking AMAZING. When your work is honored & celebrated, it doesn’t feel like labor. It’s work but it feels like life’s work – satisfying and powerful.
This is why I get pissed off when traditional foods are disguised as vegan health foods. A lineage gets squandered for a consumer product. When someone dogmatically advances an agenda without context, it’s war on women all over again.
I see it when Bone Broth is replaced with veggie broth and vetted as “equally nutritious.” I see it when milk is replaced with nuts or soybeans and still called “milk.” I see it when clients have limited their diets so much, they’ve come to fear food.
A lineage is at risk. Women’s wisdom is at risk. MSG killed bone broth. A short cut with long term side effects.
I digress. But not really.
I trust my grandmother. I trust my ancestors. I want to have the skills of doing for myself instead of relying on manufactured alternatives that may not be good for me.
I want you to have more skill and power and choice – and if you don’t know how to make bone broth, and buy bouillon or boxed stock. You don’t have a choice.
Which is not to make a hard and fast rule, Thou Shalt Not Buy Bouillon. I despise rules because they become religion and orthodoxy which is exactly the opposite of the kind of fluid judgement and power I want us to possess.
So on that note, here’s your take back your power action plan:
1. Be discerning about who’s feeding you – both literally as in who made the food and products you consume – AND who is feeding your mind.
2. Connect to women healers, cooks, chefs and people who appreciate the power of food. Stay in the conversation. Let them inspire you. Fill your basket with ingredients. Little by little, everyday, collect ideas, tools and resources. (So you have what you need when you need it).
3. Don’t get stuck in resentment, stick fiercely to what you know. Resentment hurts you the most and it doesn’t help THEM “get it.” Go inside. Connect with what you know is healthy. Then, SHARE it. And celebrate your wisdom.
4. Listen to your ancestors. If you want more ease and health in your life, do what worked for your ancestors. Ancestors are the people in your family who’ve died. They did not die in vain! Take their wisdom, put it to practice, feel more whole.
The struggle with being the workhorse of the house, the feeder, the one with food skills, the conscious nurturer, nourisher and caretaker… Is VITAL, worthy and necessary.
Feeling under-appreciated is a thing. You’re not alone, this is bigger than you. This is patriarchy. Knowing this gives you the power to not internalize it.
Run from rules.
Run to wisdom.
We have a whole tradition of it. A lineage. We know things.
Let’s learn even more so we have true healthcare. And let’s use it!
To filling your healing basket,
PS This is the exact work we do in my private coaching. If it calls to you, find out more here. To talk – contact me by email: health at marcie goldman dot com – and let’s connect!