Have you ever said this to yourself?
I certainly have and what follows isn’t pretty.
This thought hurts, you know why? Because it comes across as “smart.” Responsible. The more you tell yourself you’re wrong, the sooner you can right your wrongs. This is shame wearing a mask.
If you’re honest with yourself, you know condemning your choices doesn’t make you NOT do them. But Marcie, what I ate wasn’t healthy. If I don’t tell myself this, I’ll do it again! I know you think this is rational, please listen closely.
Your body digests “unhealthy” food better than disapproving thoughts. You can’t trick your body. It responds to shame like any other stressful attack.
So, call out “I ate badly” for what it is – a self-improvement land mine that reeks of self-doubt, blame & shame and traps you into the illusion of control. Before you take off to go exercise the-pain-of-shame away (that’s what hurts, not the food), take a moment and be still.
Wanting health & fitness doesn’t always get you healthy & fit. Not when a mountain of disapproving beliefs are taking up space inside of you.
This post is a lifebuoy to stop trying to lose weight and be fit using shame masquerading as responsible self-talk. Has it gotten you what you want? I mean REALLY want?! I didn’t think so.